Integritus Prime

This is a follow up of my previous blog on the book by N. D. Walsch titled When everything changes, change everything. He proposes 9 changes that can change your life completely. This will allow the previous 13 changes I mentioned, to occur. Hold on, let me write these changes first so it’ll make more sense. The 9 proposed changes are:

1.    Change your decision to “go it alone” – this means getting support and help from people you trust.

2.    Change your choice of emotions – this could include choosing more positive emotions, like gratitude, compared to negative ones, like resentment.

3.    Change your choice of thoughts – for instance, thinking about how change benefits you, rather than thinking complaining thoughts all the time when something changes.

4.    Change your choice of truths – you can choose which truths to focus on.

5.    Change your idea about change itself – change can be a blessing, for instance, not a curse.

6.    Change your idea about why Change occurs – you might choose to think that change occurs for the best.

7.    Change your idea about future Change – you might make a choice to believe that future change is going to be a norm in your life.

8.    Change your idea about life – for instance, you might consider life a gift.

9.    Change your identity – you may choose to be a lover of change.

Now this sounds more or less impossible right? However, Walsch gives examples, experiences and explanations on how this can be achieved. I’ve added some simple examples of my own above too. Let’s unpack the first four changes with more elaborate examples.

Firstly, most of us try our best to be independent and brave on our way through major changes, such as the death of a loved one or loss of our jobs. However, we are not the only ones going through such drastic changes, there are always other people who have gone through the same or are currently going through these tragic changes. So it is okay to reach out and have someone you trust understand exactly what you are going through by telling them. This will help you in not feeling low or lost forever, and enable you to get on with the business of living your life again as you want.

Secondly, we think that emotions come based on some outside event. Maybe they do, but often they come after the brain analyses the situation at hand, matches it with previous similar events and experiences, then signals to you what to feel. Yes, the brain analyses the situation very quickly, just in the blink of an eye. For example, if your uncle calls you like he does daily, to complain about his day, your brain will send you a signal to be resentful and you may roll your eyes. Yes on hind sight, we can change the choice of our emotions.

Thirdly, we actually have a choice to change our thoughts. Walsch says thought is an idea that we are making up. If we think we can’t do something, then we won’t be able to do it. However, if we think we can do this then the brain finds ways and means for us to be able to do it. By thinking that we can’t do something, we create that reality for ourselves. It is like a limiting belief for me. One time I thought I couldn’t write poetry, but I challenged myself to do it and succeeded. This is when I realized that thoughts (and ideas) could be changed. So yes, we can change the choice of our thoughts and ideas.

For each of these changes, we require a shift in not only our ways of thinking, but our choices of what to think about. We can choose to change our thoughts, hence our realities, simply through free will. However, as with any change, it’s not easy.

Stay tuned for my next post in this series, in which I break down Walsch’s definitions of truths, and how we might change our choice of truths.

Share with us what you think about how to deal with significant changes that are occurring in and around you.